“My ex and I started exploring poly in the last few years of our marriage,” wrote one woman. This time, the comments filled with women, often mothers, often married, admitting - before God, their employers, and brands that pay influencers - that they, too, were nonmonogamous. “After speaking candidly to many via DM, I have come to realize how … women are often assumed to desire monogamy in our relationships when that isn’t necessarily the case. They told her that they, too, wanted to open their relationships, but their husbands had refused or almost certainly would if asked.Ī month later, as promised, Woolf posted a follow-up. But privately, in Woolf’s direct messages, women responded to that last aside. The comments on the post accumulated quickly, mostly from others who felt judged for finding love quickly after loss. Then, in parentheses, “that’s for a whole other post about monogamy and how it’s not for everyone. She ended up in a relationship anyway, she wrote, and not only that, she was continuing to date in the meantime. What the 39-year-old, newly single mother of four (and former mega-mom blogger) meant to do was have a lot of casual sex. She hadn’t meant to “‘meet someone’ meet someone,” as she put it. Ten months after her husband, Hal, died, Rebecca Woolf posted on Instagram that she was in a new relationship.
